Most married couples keep staying in an unhappy marriage until the resentment levels go so high that they ultimate feel that they are left with no choice but to divorce. The underlying problem is — they initially don’t voice their resentment and unhappiness and just assume that things will somehow change on their own and there are some who “try” with almost everything before they leave. However, all of them have one thing in common that they never went for marriage counselling.
Marriage, like all relationships, takes a lot of maintenance and repair work. You need to nurture it every day of your life with love, happiness, togetherness, affection, and respect. There will always be times when one partner may feel bad or sad but solving problems and maintaining the marriage take skills. A marriage counsellor is the ideal person to teach us new and innovative ways to solve problems and get the relationship back on the healthy track.
Usually, a session with a marriage counsellor or an institution like Naya Clinics will help you understand the underlying causes behind the problems of your relationship. It will also help you learn ways to resolve conflict in healthy and mutually-acceptable ways. The sessions will also help you identify and learn communication and behaviour skills so that you not only listen to your partner but you can also “process” what he or she is trying to say. Moreover, it will help you communicate your own needs and expectations clearly, openly, and precisely without anger or resentment.
Marriage counselling sessions will also help you learn how to be assertive without being offensive. One of the best things about such sessions is that you get a safe and caring environment for you to open up and express any kind of unhappiness you feel. In no time, you will find out that your partner actually is more than willing to work in tandem with you for solving the marital problems. Marriage counselling sessions also help you get a clear and complete understanding of who your partner is and what are his or her requirements. To add to that, you will learn more deeply about yourself and what are your requirements and expectations from life and relationships. The marriage counsellor can also help you learn other skills while monitoring the overall progress, providing objective feedback, and mediating conflicts.
However, it is extremely important that you take professional marriage counselling at the earliest else the odds may go against you.